Learning to recognize the things that are holding you back can be a helpful tool step toward making meaningful change in your life. Even if you have 100 good habits that you practice, just a single bad habit can hinder the effectiveness of all the rest. This week, author and psychology professor Amy Morin shares tips for working through challenges and building the mental strength you need to reach your full potential.
Morin draws on her own experiences with hardship; they have informed the work she’s done in the years since. When she was in her mid-20s, both her mother and her husband passed away suddenly and unexpectedly. She was left having to find ways to stay mentally strong while also processing her grief. At times, she found it easier to think about what she didn’t have to do, rather than list all the things she should do. That led to a blog post which paved the way to her first book, 13 Things Mentally Strong People Don’t Do.
What You’ll Learn:
- Focus on making change within yourself
- Allow space for grief
- Learn to recognize your bad habit
- Consider seeking coaching or outside help
- Work to interrupt mental downward spirals
“Sometimes, it’s not about what people do, it’s more about what they don’t do that makes them better.” -Amy Morin
“If you get rid of the things that drain you of mental strength, then your good habits become much more productive.” -Amy Morin
“Sometimes you have to feel bad in order to feel better. Grief is a process by which we heal.” -Amy Morin
“It’s not embarrassing to go to the doctor for a physical; it’s not embarrassing to see the dentist to get your teeth checked on, and your mind is so important. Why wouldn’t you go get it checked on once in a while? Just say, how’s my thinking? Are there emotional things I can change? Can I develop new coping strategies? How do I get better? It’s not just about healing yourself when you’re really sick.” -Amy Morin
“Catch yourself when you start thinking about all the horrible things that could happen, kind of argue … some of the positive things that could happen, just to remind yourself that there are a lot of possibilities and your negative thoughts are just one potential outcome. Something good might happen, too. Sometimes the truth is somewhere in the middle.” -Amy Morin
You can follow Amy Morin’s work on her website, https://amymorinlcsw.com/. There, you can also find links to her books, including 13 Things Mentally Strong People Don’t Do.