If You Don’t Like It, Do Something About It

But don’t do that.

Benches cleared Tuesday during a baseball game between the Kansas City Royals and Chicago White Sox after Royals pitcher Brad Keller hit White Sox batter Tim Anderson in the ribs in retaliation after Anderson hit a home run and flipped his bat celebrating.

It’s an unwritten rule in baseball that you don’t overly celebrate a home run. There’s apparently a book of these rules that when violated, give the other team “the right” to hit you with a ball (or fist).

This will tick off a number of baseball fans but my belief is that if you don’t like someone celebrating a home run, stop throwing them pitches they can hit over the fence.

It’s a giant temper tantrum.

Like most of us reading this, I threw my fair share of tantrums as a toddler. Take my toy away? You’re going to hear me scream. My tantrums continued as I got older, only instead of screaming for a toy, I might intentionally not invite you to a party or talk to you for a few days.

Immature, I know. But who here hasn’t done that at least once during their high school or college career?

My tantrums never solved the problem. Besides, most times it was my fault in the first place the toy was taken away.

You don’t see a quarterback taking a cheap shot at the defensive back who intercepted his bad pass and proceeded to high step down the sideline into the endzone for a touchdown did you?

You don’t see a basketball player throwing blows at another player who “broke her ankles” (i.e.: dribbled a crossover with the basketball, causing the defender to fall down while guarding).

Unwritten baseball rule or not, the beaning of a player for excessive celebrations equates to tantrum being thrown by the pitcher or team that was just “shown up.” If you don’t like it, then pitch better so it doesn’t happen next time.

If you don’t like something, do something better about it.

Life doesn’t improve for us through tantrums.

I hear countless friends complain about the relationship they’re in. It’s bad, or maybe it’s beyond bad to toxic levels. It’s going nowhere. They’ve done nothing to see a counselor, work on their communication, or help the relationship. They just complain about what the relationship isn’t. YET THEY STAY IN IT, continuing to complain about the other person and everything they do as if that will make them change.

FACT: it won’t make them change.

FACT: if you aren’t choosing to change it or get out of it, you’re choosing to accept it.

Complaining doesn’t change a situation, action does.

You may not like how your boss treats you or the culture of your office, but what are you doing to change it? Most of us if we’re honest, admit we only complain and try to blow off the steam about our situation at happy hour.

Successful people invest that same time to improve:

  • their skills – start a new position within the organization),
  • their resume – hunt for job in a new company, or
  • their culture – address negative relationship with the boss or boss’ boss.

Complaining about our work problems doesn’t change them. Our actions do.

If you don’t like the situation, improve it.

If a pitcher gives up a home run, it’s his responsibility to throw better pitches to the next batter.

If you don’t like the situation you’re in at work, with your fitness, or in a relationship, it’s your responsibility to take action to improve it.

Because complaining or throwing a tantrum won’t change your situation. Action will.

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Episode 127