Me vs. Me

You’re scrolling through your Instagram feed on your scheduled rest day from training, perfectly content and relaxed. Then you see it…a celebratory ‘two thumbs up’ picture of someone who just finished a crazy-intense workout. Your body tenses up with regret and guilt. “Why didn’t I go today?!!”, you say to yourself, with the mental hashtag #ishouldbethere.

It’s easy to obsess over what everyone else is doing, and it’s even easier to use them as a gauge of where or what you should be. But how engaged are you in your own goals and life? Is it more than the time you spend playing the comparison game? More energy than you put into obsessively and anxiously checking your social media accounts? If you’re honest with yourself, the answers might reveal a truth…

You’re the one getting in the way of your success. You have and always will be your biggest competitor.

So how do you compete with yourself so you can make progress toward achieving your goals? All you have to do is be better than you were yesterday.

Key insights and takeaways from this episode:

Evaluating Competition

  • The me vs. you mindset wastes energy obsessing over what you can’t control.
  • Comparing yourself to that one social media pic makes you feel less accomplished and like less of the person you actually are.
  • When you constantly focus on competing with other people, you drain yourself of limited resources — like time and energy — on things you can’t impact or change.
  • The moment your focus shifts from pursuing your own goals to someone else’s highlight reel, you lose steam. You lose focus on your real competition which is you.

True Competition: You vs. You

  • Of all the competitors you have in life, the only true competition is always with yourself.
  • Ask yourself: what can you do better than you did yesterday?
  • See where you slipped up yesterday and make sure you don’t make that same slip again today.

Actionable Steps to be Better Than You Were Yesterday

  1. Take it one day at a time. The past you can’t change. The future is not yet here. Once you understand today’s actions are the only things that can make an impact, you can turn your focus to what you can control.
  2. Track your progress. Every successful person tracks their progress everyday. Keep a daily journal of goals, mindsets, daily action items, lessons learned, and things you’re grateful for. It will help you improve every day and practice gratitude when you look back and see how much you’ve grown.
  3. Put on blinders. Challenge yourself to intentionally cut back on outside distractions — like social media. It will eliminate time you spend comparing yourself with others online and increase your time focusing on your own path.
  4. Do your best every day. Sometimes your own worst enemy lives in your head. Combat it by doing your best every single day. Don Miguel Ruiz’s book The Four Agreements says to do your best means to:
  5. Under any circumstances, simply do your best and you will avoid self-judgement, self-abuse and regret.
  6. Your best is going to change from moment to moment. It’ll be different when you’re healthy as opposed to when you’re sick. Best efforts vary day to day.


  • Lean into discomfort to prove you want it more than how you’re feeling.
  • Give your best effort every single day when you feel like it and when you don’t.


  • It’s the 1% improvement every single day that changes your life.
  • It’s only your race that matters, not everyone else’s around you.


“We exhaust ourselves trying to run other people’s races. Constantly looking at their lanes instead of focusing on our own.”

“The principle is about competing against yourself. It’s about self-improvement, about being better than you were the day before.” – Steve Young

“End on empty…having exhausted everything you have for everything you desire.”


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